WHAT I'M READING RIGHT NOW + WHY (black history and beyond)

I feel like I’ve been having babies for the entire last season of my life and either nursing or pregnant for the rest and while I realize that’s a complete exaggeration but also something that many of you mama’s out there will relate to, it’s nonetheless the way I feeeeeeelllll…

Speaking of feelings, I have had such a hankerin’ for more reading lately.

You know the drill, the Amazon cart’s loaded and we’re ready to hit the “checkout” button but then we “save for later” ‘cause we realize there’s still that stack of books on your nightstand, in your closet, in your car, under your sofa, on your coffee table…that you haven’t read still.

If you’re anything like me, you have stacks everywhere. This is where I will defend myself and say that it’s for convenience sake. You know, so that I can have a book to read anywhere I go.

If I were to actually tell the truth here it really because I am just way too ambitious and seem to believe I can will myself to read a book a day even with all the things I have going on in life right now.

If you’re following my stories on Instagram then you’ve seen me talk about some of my most recent purchases and those that are in the “dreaded cart of eternal damnation”. I mean, the ones that are in my “save fo later” category on Amazon.

If you’re following, you’ve also heard my heart lately about what I am reading and why it’s becoming more and more important to me that I am educating myself even more as I’ve felt such a burden (in the best way) to begin having more conversations surrounding race and reconciliation and even sharing my own personal stories of not only growing up black in the South but the beginnings of my thoughts on being a black female blogger in the design/interior styling world. It’s something that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.

We’re probably going to have more conversations in all the spaces about some of these things but I thought, today, I’d share more of the books that I have read, am reading and have in my cart.

You can click on any of the images below to shop them and add them to your personal library. From history to autobiographical recollections to poetry and novels, these are just a few that I have found helpful and that have aided in making me more comfortable with having what can be a very tough topic to talk about and a hard conversation to have:

The ones above are a few of the ones that I have read (plus a couple that I am working on) but I thought I’d include a bit more for those of you who have asked about book and other references for your kiddos—teenagers included and for yourselves.

Here are some of my faves that I think you’ll also find resourceful, helpful, insightful and perhaps even a little fun:

The Warmth of Other Suns

African American Religious History

Barracoon

Dust Tracks on the Road

Invisible

White Rage

Black Like Me

Becoming

Deliverance: Mary Fields, First AA Woman Star Route Mail Carrier in the U.S.

Accomplished: African American Women in Victorian America

Autobiographies of a People: Three Centuries of AA History Told by Those Who Lived It

I’ve obviously only discussed a few here but I’d love to hear any that you have to suggest or that you’ve read and found to be helpful or enlightening to you!

Leave those titles for me below and I’ll add them to my personal list.

xo,

Kennesha

A SOUTH CAROLINA NATIVE MAKES AN ETERNAL MARK AT HOME


NAME | Rachael Kincaid

NUMBER OF YEARS IN HOME |

PLACE OF RESIDENCE |

SOCIAL HANDLE | @rachkincaid

WEBSITE | www.rachkincaid.com


PHOTO |  Alex Acevedo

PHOTO | Alex Acevedo


Tell us the story of your home. (go as deep or stay as superficial as you want with these) To you, what sets it ap1. Tell us the story of your home. (go as deep or stay as superficial as you want with these) To you, what sets it apart or makes it unique aside from the fact that you and your family are the ones who live in it.

 My husband and I scooped up our dream home near our hometown several years back. It’s got farmhouse vibes and was built in 1890. It sits on a few acres and we’re living the dream with some chickens and a rope swing. We’re not in a position financially to remodel the entire thing, but it’s fun to work on one room at a time and really make it our own.

 

PHOTO |  Alex Acevedo

PHOTO | Alex Acevedo

 
PHOTO |  Alex Acevedo

PHOTO | Alex Acevedo

How would you describe your personal home style?

 

If I had to name my aesthetic, it would be, “You’d never know six kids grew up here.” The walls and couches are white, and the toys are tucked away. I keep a pretty minimalist and tidy home. I find it brings a sense of serenity and security to the chaos that tends to accompany large families with full lives.

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What is your favorite space in your home and why? 

Probably my bedroom! It’s free of technology and pictures and the bed is comfortable. I also love the spot on my couch where I read my Bible most mornings. The sun creeps in and the whole world feels ripe with possibility when I’m sitting there, reading and sipping my iced coffee.

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If you could share one thing about yourself with readers that you've perhaps never shared publicly or via social media, what would it be? 

Gosh, that’s hard! I’ve been online since dial-up internet! I will say people are often surprised to find that I’m an introvert, because I stay pretty bubbly on social media. I love being around people but I feel most charged up after a few hours alone. I can power through an entire book on Audible in a single day if you’ll let me!

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What was life like for you growing up in your childhood home?

I had a glorious childhood. My little brother and I talk about this all of the time. We spent our formative years in a small neighborhood with a pool and tennis courts, the kind of neighborhood where you could bicycle everywhere and stay out after dark. My childhood bedroom was a fun space, too, one that my parents did their best to personalize for me. My favorite bedroom setup had pale yellow walls and sky-blue bedding with clouds on it. I went through a zebra phase later, too.

 

What does home mean to you? What do you want others to feel when they enter/spend time in your home? 

 Home means peace. No matter the location, no matter how many times home must change, I always want my family and guests to feel a sense of peace. Jesus lives in our home and I want folks to really experience him just from hanging out with us at home.

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Proudest DIY?

 I guess I’d have to say our chicken coop, which my grandfather designed and helped us build. Or maybe the floating bookshelves that I dreamed up and my husband installed in less than an hour! There’s a pattern here… I dream of beautiful things, and the men I love make them come true for me.

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Do you think you've learned to embrace your story? Your home? Why or why not? Explain. 

Great questions! I’d say I’ve learned to embrace my story. I’m quite comfortable with my past and present, and expectant for my future. It is far more difficult to be content with my home. We’re working with a bare bones kitchen and bathrooms, for example, and I struggle with the notion of my kids outgrowing the space before it ever fully feels like ours. What helps, though, is seeing photos and memories made in the house as is, knowing that my family is content here and it’s okay if we never get the floors redone or a real shower installed.

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If there was one piece of advice that you could give to others as to how to embrace their home and their story, what would that sound like? 

Clear the clutter! For real. Your kids will survive with less toys. Your kitchen can handle fewer dishes. Your closet won’t miss the clothes you never wear anyway. Pick one room at a time, and clear the clutter. I’ve found that having less things in my home actually makes it feel bigger, cleaner, and readier to host. Not only that, but having less to clean up or worry about gives me more time and space to focus on the things that matter.

 

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How does what you do currently in your professional life/ministry tie into this idea that home is "more than just a place we live" and that it holds much more of a redemptive and restorative power than we may currently embrace culturally? 

I work in healthcare, as a hospice nurse. My husband works, in vocational ministry as a worship pastor. In a sense, we both pour ourselves out for a living. Home is place where we fill back up. Home is where we start our days, side by side on the couch in our Bibles. Home is where we reflect and reset, so we can refresh the world we meet when we walk out of its doors.

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A Dallas Artist Makes Home Her Chosen Canvas

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Name

Katie Sarokhanian

Social Handle

@KatieSaro

City of Residence

Dallas, TX

Number of years in current home:

One

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Tell us the story of your home. To you, what sets it apart or makes it unique aside from the fact that you and your family are the ones who live in it.

 We bought this home from the original owner and it was in original 1980s condition. It was sold as a “tear-down” house and didn’t even have listing photos! We bought it as-is because I knew it was well-built and I could see its potential.  We have never bought a “move-in-ready home” and sometimes I think we are crazy for that! But only sometimes. Because slowly transforming a home into an expression of your love for your family is what I’m all about.


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For years, my husband would always try to figure out what my “love language” was: physical touch? Gift giving? Words of affirmation? None of the usual really fit. But one day it dawned on me that creating a warm, beautiful home was how I showed my love. I delight in seeing the young children notice what has changed, and comment on what I put together. It’s how I express what is important to me in real and concrete ways. For instance, the kids’ rooms are small, cozy, and uncluttered. They are just for sleeping, not playing. That’s intentional because I want them to, (firstly, get good sleep), but secondly, to play together! I want to show that them that their “play” is very important to me, and that they deserve the whole house as their creative play space.”I also want to use our home to instill a sense of wonder in my children. I want them to see art that incites their imagination, furniture of unique textures and shapes, and natural materials like marble and teak root. I like to tell them (mostly true) tales of how our furniture: “Guess what? Our marble table was cut from a real mountain, in a place called Italy--the same place where Michelangelo got marble for the famous statue of David! Can you believe it? And that the rug was woven by a woman who made thousands of knots with her two expertly trained, God-given hands!” And they say “wooooow!”   My husband doesn’t choose to have much say in the process, though he also loves our home, so it’s definitely my gift to my family.

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How would you describe your personal home style?

I love sculptural furniture, warm colors, and an abundance of art—plus just the right touch of weird in every room. I can’t seem to articulate a label for that!

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What is your favorite space in your home and why? 

Right now, my favorite space is my dining room. It’s dark, moody, and saturated, but I get a fabulous view of all the art in the living room and paintings in the hallway from there too. In the dining room, I can sit as a silent spectator to the best views in the house.

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If you could share one thing about yourself with readers that you've perhaps never shared publicly or via social media, what would it be? 

What a great question! I spend pretty close to nothing on all the furniture in the house. Honestly! Partly because it’s all thrifted vintage, and partly because I re-sell other furniture I find at a profit, to make up for the cost of what furniture I do purchase. But I spend every extra dollar I have on art! In fact, there is just one art piece in my living room that cost more money than every piece of furniture in that room combined. That’s intentional too—art means so much to me. I love rugs, furniture, etc… but art is that one thing I can buy that brings me lasting joy. It’s like having a piece of human person’s soul in your home—and the only thing I love more than things, are people.   

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What was life like for you growing up in your childhood home?

I am the oldest of seven kids, so life back then was a lot like my life is now: insane! Most of our lives we lived in a small 1800s house that was converted into a duplex and we lived on the bottom half. We didn’t have much at all, but it was a happy home. My mother has a different style than me, but she also changed the house around constantly—that must be where I inherited my chronic rearranging disease. We grew up buying everything in thrift stores and garage sales—before it was cool. My dad is a engineer/scientist now, but he graduated college when was around 10 years old, so he was a handyman as a second (or third) job when he was a student. So, when I was younger, our house was frequently under construction as he was always renovating things in our old house at my mother’s request, and with the reluctant help of the kids. I have vivid memories of my father tearing out carpet, and my chore was to pick out all the staples left in the floor.

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When I was 15 we moved to Arizona into a giant McMansion with beige everything. I HATED it! It wasn’t until then that I appreciated the beauty of an old home that runs on home-made creativity.

 

What does home mean to you? What do you want others to feel when they enter/spend time in your home? 

My tagline is: Your home is your canvas. And it’s true! It’s your way of expressing yourself and showing people what you like and what matters to you. So, I would want those people to come into my home to see a creation, not just a place. Also, we have a lot of nice things, but all of it is thrifted and expendable. No one thing is precious here—it’s meant to be used and enjoyed. I want people and their kids to come over and feel welcome. I want to have a cat and let her sleep on the couch and let visitors keep their shoes on if they want, and eat in the living room. It helps that my house is usually pretty messy, thanks to the abundance of tiny humans that live here. An impeccably clean and tidy house is always stressful for visitors, right? Or maybe I just say that to make myself feel better…

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Proudest DIY?                            

I don’t claim to be a great DIY er. I’m more of a “I did this while 3 toddlers climbed on me and it looks great from far away and it was really fun! You should try it’ll you’ll do a much better job!” My favorite one I ever did was the barkcloth ceiling. I found a giant, vintage, handmade mudcloth and made it into a ceiling “wallpaper” and it was truly incredible! It was like having art on the ceiling.

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Do you think you've learned to embrace your story? Your home? Why or why not? Explain

No actually! It’s a constant struggle to decipher whether I like something because I like it or because I like it in someone else’s house. Or, whether I like something just because it is trendy, or whether I hate something just because it’s trendy. I can honestly admit I have to consciously consider that, and I’ve made mistakes in decorating when I didn’t consider my own voice deeply enough. Scrolling Instagram can be a confusion for your inner voice just as much as it can be an inspiration. I sometimes get stuck in the miasma of design that sells, and not see the designs that speak to me. In truth, I can consider that a metaphor for my own life. Am I am who I am because someone said I was or because that’s who I am? How’s that for a deep thought of the day!     

The same thing happens when painting on canvas. I know certain paintings will sell because other people like them—but do I like them or do I like them just because I know others do? When I first started selling my paintings that was a difficult struggle. I have learned that painting is a necessity for me, not for others. I must embrace what I see and put it on the canvas and hope someone else sees it too.

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If there was one piece of advice that you could give to others as to how to embrace their home and their story, what would that sound like?

 

Your home is your canvas, that means your home is art. Some believe art is entirely subjective, but I don’t think that’s entirely true. I believe that the best art has truth, beauty, and goodness. So, when choosing something for your home, ask if it is true, beautiful, and good. But what does that mean?

Practically speaking, you have to do that by filling your home with things---objects. And objects are just things that you make or buy—they don’t have souls.

But, people have souls, and people are material beings, and as material beings, we find comfort in material objects that speak to our soul. See how that works?

So, fill your home with material things that mimic your non-material soul. Things that have stood the test of time. Design that is not a trend of the day, but a lasting testament to your character. Things that express not only beauty, but also truth. Things that have served generations of masters. And things made by the hands of you or other soulful people with love and care. So, in sum: Vintage. Antique. Handmade. Collected. Then combine them all in a symphony that is uniquely yours.

 

How does what you do currently in your 'professional' life tie into this idea that home is "more than just a place we live" but that it holds much more of a redemptive and restorative power than we may currently embrace culturally? 

Your home matters. Design matters. No, it doesn’t have to be a fancy home. But even Neanderthals painted their caves. Interior design is in our nature!

 When I think back to the lowest times in my life, I think about where I lived and what it looked like. Then, when I think back to the happiest parts of my life I think about what THAT looked like. There’s a clear difference! I can still remember the paintings on the wall of my childhood home, the pattern of the wallpaper in my bedroom, and the books that I read that sat in the bookshelves of my youth. I can remember the exactly sounds of the creak in the floor of the first home my husband and I bought, and the colors of the nursery we made for our first-born baby.  When I was in my toughest year of law school in a sleep-deprived, mentally tried and tested state—I can’t even remember basic details of what my apartment looked like! Perhaps having a space of our own is one of the greatest forms of self-care.

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Katie Sarokhanian is a Dallas based painter and mother of four who paints figurative expressionist paintings with an eye toward interior design. She believes that art is essential for your home, and that style is essential to life. And, above all: truth, beauty, and goodness. 

For more information and to find a limited amount of paintings available:

The Collective - Dallas (paintings available in-store) 

Design Sponge

Chairish

D Magazine 

@KatieSaro


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